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Who are you ?

My name is Dawn and I live in a small town in beautiful central Wisconsin with my son Benjamin. Ben and I used to live with Allen (my husband and Ben's dad) but he decided that he would rather live with a 20 year old bimbo instead. Now Ben and I are on our own.

 

 

Are you really *that* mad ?

I was mad at first but I have learned that anger is usually just hurt, frustration or fear in disguise. I think this is a healthy way to deal with my emotions. Kicking both their asses might relieve the stress a little faster, but I try to avoid violence in my life. I have turned this site into a nice mix of honesty and humor...a great way to deal with any crisis ! I probably have more sad moments than anything. Twelve years was a long time.

 

 

How is Ben taking all of this ?

I really am not certain how Ben feels about everything or how much Ben understands. With Ben's brain injury and his cognitive delays, it truly is hard to know what he does and does not understand. I explain things to him as if he does because I simply don't know.

 

 

Has Allen seen Ben ?

Nope. He has asked about him a few times on the telephone. He has not made any plans as of yet to see Ben, but says that he will at a later date when he is more "settled".

*Update 05/14/06 Allen did see Ben for 5 minutes today.*

*Update 06/15/06 Allen did see Ben for around 30 minutes today after my phonecall to him telling him his son needed surgery *

* Update 08/17/07 Allen does see Ben about once a month or so. He says his job keeps him busy. <cough, cough>

 

 

Am I adding the cheaters name to the list ?

Nope. You are adding YOUR name to the list agreeing that cheaters suck. Only your first name and last initial are added. (city and state). We do not add your whole name to the list out of respect for your privacy.

 

 

Aren't you worried that Allen or Staci will come across this site ?

Nah. I have used care and caution in keeping last names off this site for everyone involved. Not only will nobody harass Allen or Staci (even though cheaters suck !) but those who think I am being a little "harsh" won't throw eggs at me either. Most importantly, my son is not being exploited in all of this. He is the most innocent victim here. If you have browsed through the pages of people who agree that cheaters suck, you will notice I do not list last names for them either. Nobody should have to worry about repercussions for their beliefs.

 

How has him leaving affected you ?

On a personal level, I am sad that what I thought to be a loving relationship for 12 years ended like this. Allen and I had some wonderful times together, but now I am glad that I won't be spending the rest of my life with someone who did not honor their sacred vows.

On a financial level, he really did a number on me. The biggest thing is obviously the rent. I am in this lease until July at $1200.00 per month. On top of this I have gas, electric, telephone, etc. as well. To say that I am currently drowning in debt (and stress !) would be an understatement at this point. I have built this website as a means of making income.

* Update- 08/03/06 This past weekend Ben and I found a smaller place to live. It is much more budget friendly*

* Update-08/17/07 Our divorce has been final for awhile now and Allen has to pay about $65 per week in child support. Not a ton but every little bit helps right ?

Why don't you just go out and get a job ?

My son is completely dependent on me for everything. Not only for his personal cares (baths, medicines, g-tube feedings, diapering, etc.) but also to take him to a gazillion doctors appointments, to arrange his therapies, etc. When Benjamin becomes able to attend a full day school program, I will return to the work force. Until then I am using this website, selling items, etc. to supplement the social security check of about $500.

 

 

If you're so broke, how are you paying for this website ?

I'm not. I was gifted the domain name by a dear friend. She hosts it for free on her own personal server. I built it and do all the upkeep myself for free. My mom actually paid for a few months of my internet service because she thought this idea was funny and she wanted to do her part to stick it to Allen too. I am on a painfully slow dial-up connection. It's cheap and it works for what I need it for.

 

 

Will you marry me ?

No. I am not even divorced yet. Even if I was, I would not consider remarrying again for a long, long time. Why would *you* want to marry me ? You don't even know me silly !

* Update-05/11/07 Our divorce has been finalized but I am still not looking to marry anytime soon.

 

How far will you go to earn money ?

If that is an invitation to do something without morals, the answer is no. I will not send anyone naked pictures, give any sort of sensual massages or anything of the sort. I just can't bring myself to do something that I would have to explain to my son or my mother later.

* Update-11/11/06 My mama passed away. :(

 

Aren't you basically begging ?

No. I am offering a service. I will add your name to the list of people that agree that cheaters suck for a fee of $2.00. I charge $2.00 because it does take some of my time to add you to the list and also makes me feel like I am earning a living and not being a beggar. I am in a pretty crappy spot in my life at the moment and am trying to use my abilities, inventive mind and my personal circumstances (caring for Ben) to do what works. I also sell odd things from around my house, personal mementos from my now defunct marriage, etc.

 

 

Can I send more than $2.00 ? How else can I help you out ?

I get this question all the time. I honestly appreciate the general good will and generosity of people everywhere. First and foremost, add your name to the list. It costs only $2.00 for an individual to add their name and helps me feel more like I am earning a living than begging for help. If you have already added your name to the list or do not agree that cheaters suck and don't want to add your name to the list, and still wish to help, I have thought of some cool ways you can lend a hand.

I have made a wish list page of items I use around the house regularly. (Like pinesol and toothpaste and trash bags, etc.) You can send me items off of my wish list so that I can save money from not having to buy them. Visit my Wish List here. I have only put items on here that I use regularly around the house...not frivolous items that I would love to have but don't really need. Believe it or not...as much as I want an Ipod, I have to eat and pay my rent instead.

Because many people are leery of sending money to people they really don't know, I have brainstormed and come up with a way for you to aid me while at the same time knowing exactly where your money is going. You can send a money order to me made out to one of my utility companies. You can find the details about that and other ways to help on my Other Ways To Help page.

 

 

Why do I send the money order to you and not directly to the utility company ?

I have been advised not to give out my account numbers for my utilities as this gives people access to more sensitive information such as my personal address, phone number and social security number.

 

 

Won't you get alimony and child support ?

Yes, once we get to court I will have no problem getting child support. There is no alimony/maintenance in Wisconsin. I can't afford to file at the moment but am getting some information on legal aid. I am not sure if Allen will file or not. I would think he would delay it as it would keep more money in his pocket for the time being. However, he is living with a 20 year old that may pressure him to hurry up and file. So we will see what happens.

*Update: 08/03/06 I have learned that I may have options to obtain child support even before we go to court ! Details will follow once I check this out !*

 

 

Doesn't your son qualify for SSI ?

Yes, my son does qualify and does receive SSI. It's about $500 per month. My son and I live on $500 per month and whatever this website makes. (And mom ! My mom gives me money because she loves me !)

 

 

What if I have a question not answered here ?

Please feel free to Contact me via e-mail.

 

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